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Do you just make this sh!t up as you go? As you need it to fit your current point of view? I don't know where in the hell you got that I met my Russian bride at 16. She was 21.
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My apologies.
I looked back a few posts and found that my recollection of what you had previously written was false.
I don't make anything up, but like most of us, I am fallible. In this case I was certainly wrong.
So, my sincere apologies for misrepresenting your relationship.
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a lot of us have been there, and have broken our own rules. You're not alone. In the end, I still had to face that guy in the mirror every morning. Let's admit it, in the FSU it's easy to date someone who would be inappropriate back home. However, eventualy you do come home and have to live in that environment.
I dated a girl who married a man 20 years her senior. She moved to the US and lived here for a year. The relationship was "normal" for her and she loved him. Problems soon became evident. For example, she couldn't let him pick her up from work because her co-workers would wonder why her 'father' was picking her up all the time. The social pressure beame unbearable and eventually, she returned to Ukraine and divorced.
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an age difference that many men here pursued on purpose may not be normal, just because most people didn't do it doesn't mean it's wrong. Just because the stats and numbers say's it's not normal doesn't mean it's wrong.
I do believe if you take a poll of only older men whether single all their life or divorced, they would accept a much younger woman for a wife and thus that would become the norm for opinions of older men.
As far as what the majority of women say who don't what to be a woman who marries a man 10-15 years older from another country, she just might change her mind if some Joe foreigner 10-15 years her senior stops by the disco and he sweeps her off her feet. You'd be surprised how many people will change their minds about this even though they may tell their peers different. People give one opinion at one moment of time for polls and studies that can make these polls and studies unreliable. Some women married men the same age or younger than them and that brings down the (norm) for age gap between couples. What is the true (norm) for all this? It doesn't matter, what each and every individual is comfortable with matters. Suiting your needs is not a bad thing if your a decent person.
I once thought it was unusual for the 7 year age difference between me and my ex because society and the numbers of similiar marriages told me so but now look at me, I'm considering women over 10 years younger than me and I even written to women 4 years older than me which I would have never done in my younger days. My answer in a poll given 10 years ago would change today! Women are capable of changing their minds too.
Even if the numbers are dead on, the majority of men or women doing the choosing ONLY CARE about the women/men that say, "yes I can accept you as an younger woman/older man". They should care less what the majority has done or says in a study. So if a man and a woman are willing to accept a huge age gap between them then the more serious question is can they love each other and make a marriage work which is a question everybody is faced with no matter what their age gap is.
If I were to marry a much younger woman, I would definately pay more attention to her to find out if she's sincere instead of a having an infatuation with me besides GCG motives. I do realize the bigger the age gap, the less successful a marriage will be. I don't now if anybody produced a reliable study on that issue but that's a fact no matter what poll or numbers you look at.
JP, I do agree Sven has to be careful, even I have to be careful with the younger gals I'm corresponding with even though most aren't into nightclubs, discos, makeup and fashion.
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