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I think you're forgetting one thing:
Women want hot romance, not cold hard logic. A Russian bride wants passion, not friendship. Friendship can come later.
If you use the brutal honesty, rational approach to negotiating a relationship here in the US, you'll typically end up with "just friends". Why would it be any different in Ukraine? What you might end up doing is losing some good prospects, but you sure won't turn off the scammers and gold diggers. They'll see you as an easy catch.
The guy who probably knows most about Ukrainian women on this board says:
"Do your best to avoid this subject if it is ever touched."
I'd go with that advice.
Too Much Too Soon
Read BillyB's story and learn from it, David. If you get too serious via e-mail you run a real risk of disappointment. Even if she is "the one", it won't hurt to take things at a reasonable pace in the beginning. My fear is that you may have escalated the romantic rhetoric to the point that she would be understandably confused by the fact that you are visiting many.
It is extremely flattering when some of these women begin waxing romantically in their letters with their broken English and alluring photos. Resist the temptation to respond too romantically or seriously. Keep the rhetoric to the level of getting to know you, looking for friends (plural) and get on a plane as soon as you have a nice list of prospects. Plan on many trips and some disappointments. Once you are there if you do find instant chemistry, by all means, pursue your dream. (And then get home and do what BillyB did, check her from a new e-mail account ;-)
A little update here
I received a letter back from the lady I will spend most of my time with. She definatley knows that I am going to see other women. I'm sure she would rather I not, but understands. She also understands that I am the one that will most likely be the one for her, or at least the one that will want her. She said that there are 3 other men she is writing to, but as she said, I am the only one that makes her heart beat faster.
She is making a new dress just for our meeeting and will try to take time off work to be with me during my visit. I'm sure there are two reasons for the thime off work. See wants to spend time together to see how we are together and this will keep me occupied so that I don't meet many other ladies.
There are 2 other ladies I will definatley meet, one from her agency and one from another. She willknow that I will meet these ladies, but hopfully I can do this during a period she is at work or has other things to do.
There is one other thing that has come up. Due to my travel arragements, I might have to leave Kherson and travel to Kiev a day earlier 12-31 to make my morning flight on Jan 2. This will put me in Kiev for the new year. I will ask her what her plans are for the New Year and let her know that I will have to leave for Kiev early. I know this is a big family thing in Ukraine about the New Year, but it would be nice to have her accompany me to Kiev and spend that time with me. I know, would be asking a lot of her. I don't think I wouldask, just hint and see if she offers.
If not, I'm sure I could find some YHRB to spend the extra day with. :smokin:
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