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That's basically what I was trying to get across when I commented on what the women expect vs. what is fair to you.
I still maintain seeing that #1 Russian bride then leaving her for a few days to meet other women is a VERY bad idea but aside from that....your description of her interest in meeting you is EXCELLENT, hence my suggestion you see her the whole time and maybe just have a backup plan just in case.
The idea she will feel "she won you" may make YOU feel important but its fantasy.
In her mind you must win her. She is not the exception, she is the rule.
Anyway have fun and good luck. Let us know how it goes.
I plan on spending my time with her. I will ust met the other 2-3 for tea, for maybe an hour or so. The others are just the back up plan. I have committed to meeting them and don't want to be a heel and back out. I also don't want to disrespect what I have with L. (I guess I can put an initial in for her name since she will be a regular part of my posts, hopefully when I get back with a TR I will be posting her name.) I will not disapear for days to meet other women, I will try to schedule the meets when L is occupied with work or other things. I don't want to take away any time that we may have together, feel it is important to spend as much time together.
Really important points about a key cultural difference. RW expect the man to win them over, it's his responsibility, his job. You will have to do the work, don't expect her to meet you in the middle. This whole internet dating agency is a new thing and some adjust to it, some do not adjust to it, and some try to adjust but really don't. Some also don't care, they only want a ticket to the US. She doesn't care how many women you meet if she's the one with the visa. She will ensure that she's the one who wins you over the others, using every feminine tactic she knows. She is the one to avoid.
It may sound strange, but I recommend looking for the one who doesn't want to move, doesn't care who you are, doesn't care about your toys or your money, doesn't care about your passport, but simply wants to know if you can show her what kind of man you are inside.
Winning
There was a mention in this thread and I have seem it in others about winning a ladies heart.
I want to add my thoughts on this. I don't think winning a womans heart or for a woman to win a man means to do things that you don't normally do on a regular basis. I imagine there
are a lot of men that go to the FSU with pictures of their possessions and wads of cash to win
over a woman, I'm sure this works. There are also men that go there and put on a big act of
being overly romantic and saying all the things a woman wants to hear. You deserve what you win.
I have been writing to women about the way I am, I say in my letters the things I would normaly
say. When I arrive and meet a woman I will be who I am. There are times when I am romantic and
affectionate, there are times I am not. I am caring, there are things I enjoy doing and things
that I don't enjoy doing, she will learn about me and who I am. I am not going to do things
that I would not normally do to win her heart, I think that is just asking for trouble. I think
this falls in line with the other thread about money. Treat her the same with money as you would
when she arrives here. If you can shower her with money and gifts when she arrives here, why
not do it there also?
I think what people seem to forget here is that everyone is different and we all are trying to
find our match. The main thing I think is to be honest with each other. To treat each
other during the courtship period as we would after marriage.
Is she trying to do and say things to "win" me, or more specifically to 'win' a ticket to the
US. I hope not and don't think so.
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