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There is mainly 3 reasons why people get a divorce.
1) A lot more diversified society thanfor 50 yaers ago. Back then, the main reason was to get married and have children. Today people want a succesfull job, big house, fun, see the world and so on and with our economy and technology it is possible.
2) back then people work harder, so there was less time to argue. When they were together they appriciated the time together. Today too much time together, can make the relationship boring.
3) Our society is more egocentric than before. So I lot of people do not know hoe to share, feelings, room and responsibilty. (the last one some spoiled brads and gals sometimes never has learned).
I know there is other issues as weel, but the 3 above is important.
So when somebody become in-love, wow what a great feeling, but eventually moving together, share responbility are too much for a egocentric person and its not fun. So ... a divorce.
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This theory is probably way out in left field , but I have always thought that there is a direct link between sexual promiscuity and the divorce rates climbing.
100 years ago until maybe 40 years ago , it was quite normal to be either virgins , or extremely inexperienced at marriage. If you didn't know anything else about sex with any other person, you didn't know what you are missing because you had nothing to compare it to.
I think it is a very high percentage of divorces were sex in some way,shape or form is involved. Either infidelity , or the sex is getting boring.
Why is the sex getting boring?? Well , a recent survey done here in Canada determined that an average Canadian woman had 23.6 sexual partners prior to marriage.
If I am being compared in bed to 24 other guys from a CW's past , no **** the sex will get boring. Every guy has his methods , and I am sure that there are a couple of things from each guy this average woman enjoyed that perhaps some of the other guys would not do.
Going into marriage , if the passion fails , I think it is because there is just too much previous info to compare to , to expect two people to be monogomous for any length of time. It will get boring , at least to a highly experienced couple , and things tend to fall apart.
I agree with LesNYC on this point that it boils down to compatibility and heat in the bedroom that keeps things going down the road. If that heats cools off , it's pretty hard to keep a marriage going on good conversation alone.
I know this was a bone of contention in the beginning of my marriage , in that I was experienced , and my wifey was not . She would ask questions about past girlfriends, and then not like the answers she was hearing. My bad, for actually answering these questions.
I frankly feel that if two people have nothing else to compare their sexual experiences against, then they have a better chance of succeeding in their relationship, as long as their "Drives" are compatible.
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i think your right IMO. My Russian bride has mentioned this.
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In my country a study more or less confirm this..
But here the main conclusion was a link between the age og sexuall active and the divorce rate. Basically when the 13 - 14 yaers old youngster start the sex life, they are also likely to get a divorce 10-20 years later.
There is of course a link between how oýoung a person starts his/hers ex life and how many partners they have, so your theory is not that bad !!
In my country the divorce rate has actually peaked at 50% at is down to 45% now. However 20% will also experience a 2nd divorce.
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