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Ronin is 100% right in his transcultural analysis: Russian culture is very CONCRETE when we go to money and material matters but when that kind of thinking comes in contact with an American or European guy who has been educated to be "nice" to woman and believes in CHIVALRY what comes out is a DREADFUL AND DANGEROUS COMBINATION which is the same like you would keep a thicking bomb in your panties.
These Russian women are used to men who give them NOTHING, have sex with them and disappear.. Did you hear about the word Mirzavets? It means something like BAD GUY and that's the nickname my wife gave to me from the beginning.. I understood that this means:"If you are a nice guy to me I will never be horny for you again" Capisce? I confuse her head every week about our money situation like in a poker game and she keeps on being horny for me. If I would do the mistake of SUPPLICATING to her like you are doing with this woman already at the beginning she would go telling to girlfriends that I am a "good guy" and lose all her sexual attraction for me.
This is difficult to understand for a guy from the West because the ground where this NICE GUY dynamics happens in Russia is different than in the West.
>So, I would not want my girl to guess my income if she is >interested and I don't need a girl living next to me and crying in >the forums that we live "poor and in the shed", afterall it takes 2 >years to get green card, yes?
Yes this is basically the main reason for which I say you should dump her but my RATIONALE for it is different than the one who are moralizing about her.
What happened is that you caused her behavior by bringing up the issue of the money. Why? Because you were thinking like a man:"If I tell her about my money and about my house she will be FAIR TO ME". Well man FAIRNESS and CHIVALRY are masculine inventions. What a woman will do ( especially a Russian woman who has been dealing with exciting bad guys who abandon her with the children and run away) if you let her control you will be to MANIPULATE YOU our of your finances with whatever mean comes to her mind.
Because this is EXACTLY what she will do: you get a woman who is in your ears all the time telling that you are "poor and in the shed". The mistake you made when you told her about your house and brought up the finance issue was to GIVE HER CONTROL. What you need to do in future is to never frame your interaction with a woman ( no matter is she RW or from whatever country ) by doing ANYTHING which gives control to her ( while SCREENING HER because the worst cases of manipulative gold diggers have to be DUMPED, they are DANGEROUS!)
>I would not want someone for couple years, I take marriage >seriously and I am looking for the girl who will like my lifestyle, >who will appreciate what I can give her without any comparisons >with Jones and who will not drop me like a bad habit as soon as >her green card arrives in the mail.
Women are used to manipulate men. The best way to achieve this is to show her from the beginning that you are NEVER giving control to her. If she is a GOLD DIGGER and has non pure intentions she will be the one to dump you ( or have sex with you.. LOL) when she notices that she cannot control you..
A normal woman instead will love you and be loyal to you when she notices that she cannot control you. Because she will feel SAFE.
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