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I understand my wife's (and what she claims is the majority of Russian women 's) distrust of AM who claim they are looking for a wife. Lets face it, if you've been in the FSU 5+ times and are still looking it's because you like the view and don't want to miss out on the next hottie to walk past.
My wife says that the scammers are just the other side of the equation. Why doesn't anyone take offense and rail about how criminal it is for these men who have no real intention to make a commitment to keep going on these tours and keep promising girls all kinds of things just so they can have a 5 day romp with a woman that is probably 100 levels above anything he could get without traveling 8000 miles and telling lots of lies to make it happen. He's a scammer too. And sadly if all a girl has to offer is affection, and yes, sex no one counts that as her losing anything.
Maybe I am just in a bad mood but it seems like half of the men here want what RW have to offer. But the rest of you...why not just go to Pattaya and get a couple 19 year old Thai "wives" for the week. At least there it's understood everyone is trying to scam everyone. I wonder how many of these called 'scammers' started out as girls who had all the right intentions at first then just got used over and over until they figured if you can't beat them why not join them.
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I am smiling at all these don'ts. These don'ts can work for silly girls but not for a seriously thinking lady. Oh, sure some things seem to be cheap there . (hm...... and how much is pepsi in the US? 2L is slightly over a dollar :) ).
A person can be easily seen "behind" all these tips and "cheap" comments.
Back to the first post (and the second of Phil's ladys :) ). They both seem to be hunting a man for one day not for the life. I am can be wrong. But if I am realy interested in a man for marriage why would I ask him for a coat or anything ? If this is the right person then 5-6 months later you will "set" in his house and life. And depending how things are you can have the coat :) or whatever.
What I mean is ...... dealing with a man to be your husband is much more complicated than asking him to buy this or that .[/quote:a781d59892]
First off I loved the fact that Cokes were only 20 cents in Thailand. And I wasn't shy about saying so. And second I do have a really cool car. But lets talk about the serious things in here.
I love the honesty in admitting a guy's money is a factor in how a woman see him. It's just genetic. Women are genetically programmed to seek a mate that can provide for her and their offspring. Same reason men look for young beautiful women. We are programmed to look for women who have good genes to pass along to our children and are healthy enough to successfully bear children. This is not theory it's a scientific fact. But as intelletual animals we can add more into it, and try to override our basic programming. And as a result of bleeding heart liberals making it a crime to say anything but politically correct wimp-speak we end up with mixed messages, and crossed signals and no one is happy.
But from a male point of view why does you being intelligent and strong willed (aka stubborn) entitle you to anything more than a Wal-Mart shelf guy (whatever that is). What are you bringing to the party that makes you so valuable? Why would I choose you? Remember that judging people is definitely a two way street.
However I don't dispute your intelligence. You're 100% right that a woman trying to grab an expensive coat can only mean a couple possibilities and none indicate a happy future. 1. She's friggen tired of being cold and figures it won't hurt to ask. In which case this means nothing. But doesn't suggest anything either. 2. She thinks he's just here for a good time and she's going to get the maximum value for her services. Kind of sad such proud women are forced into making such choices but life's hard. We all do what we have to. 3. She doesn't like him. He has bad breath and keeps yaking about how much he hates his ex-wife. She's forced to smile and pretend he's so witty and charming. It's a lot of work and every time he breathes on her she has tears running down her face. No way she starts whispering silently to herself. No way I am marrying this American version of Fat, Lazy, Stinky Boris. No way. So there isn't going to be a house filled with warm coats. No fireplace to sip hot chocolate by with a man she adores. No improvement in her life at all...except...just maybe...he'll be dumb enough to buy her a coat. And when he says he will she instintively grabs for, not the warmest, or most practical coat. No she grabs for the most expensive one in a desperate act to put value on herself and make herself feel special even though there is nothing special about the entire episode.
Yet in the end he feels like big deal who can show off by blowing a couple frog skins for a coat, and she gets something nice and warm for the winter which she can show off to her friends. Maybe, in some odd swing of karma, everything is in balance after all.
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