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If the "No" answer cannot be answered, then the result would be, if you are 45 and go for a 20 year it's wrong, yet, what the heck, I can justify anything I do as being correct, meaning I did this, yes I had this thing for 20 year old girls being 45. I thought to myself, wow, those are some hot ladies at that age, I want one.
Now, these are FSU ladies and I know they don't care about age, they just want a man to take care of them. I'll take a chance and go for one, or in reality, it was probably many many 20 year old ladies. Could he have just found one that said yes? Dang, am I wrong? The question is, is Kenc willing to tell why it's wrong? I will wait.
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KenC should not have to qualify his answer. KenC has been fairly vocal over the years about the fact that he considers his Russian mail order brides relationship an anomoly.
Unless I'm mistaken the question was [b:54fefaad46][i:54fefaad46]Is it SMART....[/i:54fefaad46][/b:54fefaad46]. Unless you are completely clueless, and fully devoid of common sense, one should not need a laundry list of potential perils associated with targeting a mate 1+ generation(s) younger/older than yourself. That is not to say that it is impossible for such a relationship to work out favorably long term, given the proper circumstance.
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Thanks for the comment. The question of "Is It Smart" was already answered. You are correct in stating that Kenc doesn't have to justify his answer.
How can a man who did something that was right in his mind, yet, say it's wrong for other people to follow what he did? Then again, I'm assuming he thought it was right because he sits back in silence. He will remain in silence because he knows I will accept what he says with a congratulatory phrase, or he knows I will disect his justification. So, thanks for stepping up for him as many have tried, but, I want to read the words of the man who answered the "no " answer to my question.
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Pretty plain what is this guy is trying to do. Moderator, please lock this thread.
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This I can answer for you as I'm in a somewhat similar situation. Most people learn as they go through life; it's a somewhat evolutionary process. In my situation I met my wife before I even knew of RW message boards, and I can tell you that I broke every last one of the "tablets of stone". Luckily, I met and married a very good, very honest, and very hardworking woman. I have since come to learn that this is not the case for many men. I now know of guys who worked much harder than I did to find a good woman, and were rewarded with much less satisfactory results. There is also the issue of collateral consequence that you cannot foresee when making a decision to move forward, but once you understand it, you can help others to avoid getting blindsided by issues they hadn't yet considered. So, I don't advocate sending large sums of cash to a woman I've never met, who contacted me first, for a visa and airfare to meet in a third country (that is nearly as difficult as the US to enter for young, pretty, single RWs) - although for me, it worked out GREAT. Conversely, I'm not very "gung-ho" on advising guys to send their fiancee's off alone to ask for [i:90f5e79d56]father's permission[/i:90f5e79d56] from the Ex husband, although I thought it was a great idea at the time Liliya and I discussed it - only later did I understand what lifelong scars that would leave. The only people who do not change their opinions and advice based on new information, are those who refuse to learn. :rolleyes:
[b:90f5e79d56]"You can't always get what you want"
[i:90f5e79d56] .....Rolling Stones[/i:90f5e79d56][/b:90f5e79d56]
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