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You're obviously not going to win many points with this crowd, lol.
1) You simply cannot draw a parallel between isolated abuse cases (and they certainly do exist) and the justification or rationale of going to America without feeling anything close to love, seeking to become a citizen by using a man or bring fabricated charges against him (which can ruin his life, the police and our society show no leniency in this area, it's almost as bad as child abuse or molestation to many)...
2) Most of the men here like Russian brides partially because they are vain and are somewhat more absorbed by their appearance and weight even than AW, lol. We all joke about taking forever to get ready and out of the bathroom, but we're usually happy with the results!
3) I agree, as a general trend, you usually attract only the happiest and most unhappy to post on most message boards. The ones that are in successful marriages or relationships usually have no desire to brag or "shove it in the face" of others who might not be so contented. There can be a purpose to these boards, and women are usually more patient, less judgmental and more willing to listen and not try to solve everything instantaneously than men.
4) The proliferation of domestic violence shelters is a GOOD thing. It's the sign of a society and nation where everyone realizes there are problems that need to be addressed and not "swept under the carpet." Churches, psychologists/psychiatrists and non-profits spend thousands of man hours trying to help couples in these situations, always protecting the women as the first concern. Is it better for the woman to have no option, nowhere to go to escape from her tormentor? Of course not. Are there just as many problems in Russia with men and the manner in which they treat women or act (mental and physical cruelty) after abusing alcohol? Of course, it's one of the factors often cited for RW/UW leaving to the West in the first place. In fact, thousands of women are kidnapped, sold into prostitution, murdered and abused in the former Soviet bloc, and very little is being done about it. Thankfully, that's changing for the better, but too slowly IMO.
5) This issue of men working "too much" is a common complaint of women around the globe, particularly in the United States. I think it's one of the factors that leads men to Russia in the first place...the idea that a strong woman who is a "survivor" in a economically-depressed region of the world might have more appreciation for what a man can provide. Many marriages here end in divorce because the father is constantly pressured to earn enough money to send his children to better schools, for his wife to have nicer clothes, car, cell phone, vacations, home, trips to the salon or spa...this "keeping up with the Joneses" effect is hard to ignore. Unfortunately, many fathers aren't able to be around enough for their children because they feel a responsibility or pressure to do bigger and better things, which means longer and longer working hours. In the United States, the average employee works 48-52 hours per week, the highest figure in the past 30 years. In order to have security/stability/comfort, SOMEONE has to sacrifice, right? Would the wives be happier if the man worked 20 hours per week, spent twice as much time at home but she had 1/2 the amount of money she previously had to spend???
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