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I do not believe that the RWA statistics are scientific or representative. In contrast, the "MOB" study reported that "60% of the women did not love their husbands when they married." Whether 95% or 60% or some other number, you can be sure that the true number is high.
More than one of the Russian brides fluent in English has told me that the word "love" means more in Russian than in English. So maybe most women do not love their husbands in the Russian sense. How can a lasting, loving relationship develop and manifest itself in a week or even 90 days, especially considering the language and culture differences?
Men seeking immediate love are deluding themselves. It is a dream. The exceptions as reported by some married members here seem more like the temporary euphoria of "crazy love" that grew into a lasting, loving relationship.
So does this mean that most women seek only a green card? I do not think so. They seek a better life to include love. I venture to say that the typical RW enters the relationship in good faith, fully hoping that it will develop into love. The man is her chosen one. If he disappoints her and she is not in love, she probably will move on. This does not mean that she married solely for a green card.
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I know there exists somewhere a forum where the women discuss similar issues to those discussed here. Does anyone know the URL?
Thanks....
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For your purpose it does not matter but food for thought to any men here thinking (I mean the Russian side of RWA, not the English side suggested in the link)
will be a great place for their girlfriend/fiance/wife to share posts with other Russian Women I'd suggest you think twice.
Aside from seeing many opinions that support my comments from other Russian women themselves :confused:
I will tell you I have read the Russian side (yes even since they closed it off to Western men recently, I found a backdoor way into that forum) and along with the well meaning and unharmful posts you will find there, there is an abundance of negitivity in that forum (PrincetonLion, care to argue this one? You post there too).
My personal view after reading that forum for months and months is based on:
The poll Natasha (site admin) did there a while back showed 95% of the women who post there did so to immigrate and not because they loved their husbands.
Some RW who post on the English side attest that the majority of RW posting there are mercenary, materialistic and came to wherever they are to immigrate.
They help each other with how to file DV charges and other such "cute" subjects.
They complain in many threads about America and their husbands and about money in particular.
Obviously I am stating examples and there are some there who are not like this and some good subjects as well.
My point is the LAST place I would want my NEW RW-wife, or fiance or Girlfriend reading is at RussianWomenAbroad because the negative slant would start you off on the wrong foot before she really had a chance to form her own opinion.
Exceptions noted.
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