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The point I tried to make in my first Russian brides post (and never did) was that Mark and apparently you, were experienced enough to make a [i:9889cb68cf][b:9889cb68cf]valid[/i:9889cb68cf][/b:9889cb68cf] blink decision. As you said, you had honed your instincts by meeting 100 RW. Mark too had dated women from different countries before he met his wife.
I'm sorry, but a lot of OWW are just desperate for any woman to have them. Their "blink decisions" are successful because the woman said "yes".
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Would that make it a "boink decision?" ;)
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Some don't even get that!
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Your unstated point goes without having to be stated. There is indeed more to my OWW story than meets the eye of a newbie here...but I'm not so inclined to recount my credits and history every week or so. But after a 1000 posts, it will not always be easy to dig up.
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For some really intelligent people (who post with major egos) they cannot figure out how to stop doing this :wall: because they are too mentally hung-up on themselves. Stubborn, ignorant, and self righteous types.
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You could use blink or try going with the science of love. This is from a BBC article :chuckle: ....
In addition to our rational minds something is going on subconsciously we don't know about or understand. This is always the case because we are humans not machines. Here is an interesting fact from scientific literature. The conscious mind processes 2,000 Bits of Information/Second. The subconscious mind processes 4 Billion Bits of Information/Second.
As for me I have a theory about womans toes. If the toe next to her big toe is longer - she's not for me. :chuckle:
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Bill, interesting stuff and just the kind of reason why we do not know anything substantive about a person, from the point of view of marriage, until we meet them.
The differnce in processing is why I wrote about the deep trawl thing, many posts ago. The difference between the conscious mind and the subconscious is that the subconscious is always doing lots of stuff we do not know about, or think of, like breathing. But the conscious mind does directed stuff. The subconscious takes its time to make sense from a jumble of data because it is essentially undirected, trying out different solutions until one fits; much like a computer playing chess.
Go to sleep on a problem and wake up problem solved. Put a matter out of your mind for a day or two and then see what happens. When I write a paper, or article, often, that is what I do. Give myself the problem, do the reading and then go on with life. A couple of days later, just start typing, it is all there.
IMHO, in relationships, I think that the stuff your cite referenced is probably more important than we realise and probably more important than the 'facts'. This is why so often people write about their disappointement when they finally meet their penfriend. It is also why the 'blink' thing does not apply to well in long distance relationships.
If the important stuff is chemical, or assessed subconsciously, without 'hard data', then everything that we thought we knew previously about the person does not count. Rapid assessment of previous data is irrelevant here.
In the end it is the 'bum sniffing' that counts!
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